How I Learned the Hard Way That Being "Too Nice" Kills Attraction
Over the years of mastering attraction and seduction, I’ve learned countless lessons—especially about the behaviors that make women lose interest. Early on, I made the classic mistake: I was the "nice guy." I treated women with excessive kindness, respect, and politeness, believing that’s what would win them over. But instead of attraction, I got rejection.
At first, some women showed interest, but eventually, they’d pull away. The more it happened, the more frustrated I became. I was putting in maximum effort for minimal results—not even for sex, just companionship. Eventually, I stopped going out altogether, preferring to stay home rather than face another disappointment.
During that break, I reflected on my mistakes and realized the harsh truth: being too nice was killing attraction. Women lost interest because I was too agreeable, too available, too eager to please. After countless rejections—even going months without sex—I knew I had to change.
What Did I Do Differently?
First, I had an honest conversation with myself. I vowed to stop prioritizing women—not by mistreating them, but by no longer putting them on a pedestal. I stopped:
Overly polite language (e.g., saying "everything’s great" instead of a casual "all good").
Unnecessary favors when they didn’t ask for help.
Acting like their approval was my goal.
I started treating even the most stunning women—the blonde with blue eyes, the perfect curves—the same way I’d treat anyone else: with respect, but indifference. Why? Because neediness is repulsive to women. If she senses you’re desperate, she’ll run.
The "Zero Fks Given" Mindset Works**
Women can smell desperation from a mile away—especially if you’ve been in a dry spell. Your subconscious betrays you. You might not stare at her cleavage, but your energy screams, "I haven’t had sex in months!"
If you’re in a scarcity phase, solve it. Hire an escort if needed. Get the frustration out of your system. A confident man isn’t starving for validation.
Another key lesson: Never skip the attraction stages. If you rush for sex, you’ll fail. Women (the ones worth pursuing) don’t jump into bed without connection. They play hard to get—even if they want you.
Stop Fantasizing, Start Acting
Don’t obsess over her.
Don’t fantasize about sex with her.
Don’t masturbate thinking of her.
This only makes you nervous and clingy. Women don’t crave the "nice guy" for passion—they want the guy who doesn’t care too much. Harsh? Maybe. True? Absolutely.
Final Rule: Be Unbothered
Make her think you have options (even if you don’t). Let her believe she’s just another woman in your life (while subtly showing interest). Women are complex—they don’t follow logic. The "nice guy" finishes last because he’s predictable. The man who doesn’t care? He’s the one she craves.
Stop being the agreeable, needy guy. Start being the one who walks away first.
